Modeling A Genuine Apology

by: hollyfurtick




As a mom we all have things we want to instill in our kids before they leave our homes. One of the most important things I want to teach my kids is how to sincerely apologize. The ability to admit when you’re wrong and then sincerely apologize is an essential skill for healthy relationships that somehow a lot of people never fully grasp.

I tell my kids, even if you were only 2% wrong, sincerely apologize for that. The truth is we’re usually a lot more than 2% at fault but you gotta start somewhere.

I can’t say I’ve seen a ton of progress with my kids in this area but I have faith that the seeds are being planted. And I know that modeling is more effective than lecturing so I’m starting with myself.

I find that my relationships are almost instantaneously deepened when someone has the courage to initiate a tough conversation with the words I’m sorry.

I found this old quote by my husband and wanted to share it today. It’s something that’s been so helpful for me.


A Template for A Fauxpology:

- I'm sorry if you're upset.

- But the thing is ______

- I don't know what else you want me to do.


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A Template for Genuine Apologies:

- I'm sorry for (MY SPECIFIC ACTION)

- Please forgive me.

- I want to make it right.

@StevenFurtick


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