As a mom we all have things we want to instill in our kids before they leave our homes. One of the most important things I want to teach my kids is how to sincerely apologize. The ability to admit when you’re wrong and then sincerely apologize is an essential skill for healthy relationships that somehow a lot of people never fully grasp.
I tell my kids, even if you were only 2% wrong, sincerely apologize for that. The truth is we’re usually a lot more than 2% at fault but you gotta start somewhere.
I can’t say I’ve seen a ton of progress with my kids in this area but I have faith that the seeds are being planted. And I know that modeling is more effective than lecturing so I’m starting with myself.
I find that my relationships are almost instantaneously deepened when someone has the courage to initiate a tough conversation with the words I’m sorry.
I found this old quote by my husband and wanted to share it today. It’s something that’s been so helpful for me.
A Template for A Fauxpology:
- I'm sorry if you're upset.
- But the thing is ______
- I don't know what else you want me to do.
A Template for Genuine Apologies:
- I'm sorry for (MY SPECIFIC ACTION)
- Please forgive me.
- I want to make it right.